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Birth Defects and Transgender Issues

Thursday, December 6th, 2007

So, I haven’t been too consistent with my posting lately, and I wanted acknowledge that to my readers. You can count on me from here on out to post consistently on topics that matter to you and to me.

Here is my question for today–what is the difference between a birth defect and a mis-matching gender identity? Both happen at birth…both have stigma attached to it…and yet, there is a clear difference between how most people view a birth defect as something to deal with and it is understandable, and yet a mis-matching gender identity is not understandable, and it is something that people will judge and discriminate against. Why?

Deafness is something understandable. Gender identity that doesn’t match the body I was born in is not understandable, and therefore, thought of as a “sexual perversion”. This is what kills my spirit–gender identity has NOTHING to do with sex or sexuality! Come on people…this is not any more a sexual perversion as deafness is. So stop treating us as something to be abhored and feared, and start treating us as human beings!!!

That is all I have time for today, but you will be able to expect more on this topic in the coming posts. Thanks for reading my rantings, and I will see you tomorrow morning!

ENDA…Again, with a Christian Twist

Friday, November 30th, 2007

(sigh and frown) They’re at it again–the right-winged conservatives trivializing what should be basic human rights for all people, and turning them into rights only for the select few who are straight and, supposedly, normal. This article, written by the American Family Association, states that,

Activists insist that ENDA must be passed in order to protect homosexuals. “Qualified, hardworking [gay and lesbian] Americans are denied job opportunities, fired or otherwise discriminated against for reasons that have nothing to do with their performance and abilities,” says the Human Rights Campaign.

This discrimination effectively denies qualified individuals equality and opportunity in the workplace, HRC explains. Those who experience this form of discrimination have no recourse under current federal law or under the Constitution as it has been interpreted by the courts.

But just how many homosexuals have experienced “this form of discrimination?” One looks in vain at HRC’s Web site for any concrete numbers. Instead, the lobby group basically contends that because this kind of discrimination could happen, homosexuals must have federal protection.

Of course, this does not demonstrate that homosexuals are being fired because of their sexual orientation. Technically speaking, HRC’s argument could be made for countless categories of people. For example, there is no law in any state that says a person can’t be fired for having a beard, being a New York Yankees fan, or preferring mint chocolate chip ice cream. But that doesn’t mean they are.”

Now I ask you–what the heck kind of reasoning is that? It’s circular, because they are essentially saying that if a=b, then b=a, so therefore, a=b=a=b. They aren’t making a bit of sense in that they are not seeing the actual issues. Their question, “So perhaps the question before Congress should be: Are homosexuals being discriminated against in sufficient numbers to justify federal intervention?” really doesn’t make sense either. How does being fair and just to your fellow human being, regardless of who they are sexually attracted to, or the gender they identify as, have to be “justified” for federal intervention? And why do we need cases upon cases to prove that we are human beings with the same rights as everyone else?

Here’s another nugget for you: “…concerning a nonexistent problem.” Non-existent?? Obviously, they have closed their eyes to what exactly is happening and why we need protection like everyone else does. Isn’t it bad enough to be beaten and killed by living our lives? Do they not see this? Why should we be excluded from the protections and basic human rights that these same “Christians” get? And yet, these same people get upset if their way of life is threatened. And I know this is true, as I have spent many, many years in a very conservative church that worshiped on Saturday. They were all about saving the world from the “evil” that would threaten their very same freedoms that they want to keep away from our LGBT community.

I have a confession, though. I couldn’t get through the entire article, because I got so tripped up by the crap they were spewing everywhere and I got angry. With all this happening against us, we need to fight even harder to protect ourselves from the crap they are giving us.

Let me leave you with this baloney that the article spewed out, and my conclusions: “Christians should not underestimate the potency of this weapon in the public-policy wars, however. Because our country has, in the past, been guilty of real discrimination against minorities, we as a people tend to react guiltily to anyone’s claim that they, too, have been wronged.”

First of all, what is “real” and”fake” discrimination? Discrimination is discrimination! Period! We are just as much a minority as those who have had “real” discrimination in the past. The only difference is that it is classified as a “sin” to many Christians. Well, once upon a time, it was considered a sin to be a different color–mainly black, as in the slavery days. And, many people used the good ole’ bible to make their claims. Now, I do not agree with that claim, just as I don’t agree that it is a sin to identify differently than how others identify. To take a line from that article, “a person can’t be fired for having a beard, being a New York Yankees fan, or preferring mint chocolate chip ice cream.” Now, I could say, and find support for in the bible, that being a Yankees fan is a sin. (And I am sure there are some that would actually agree with me!) Or, I could say that not having a beard would be a sin according to the bible. But what would be the point?

Next, why are people debating so heavily about federal protections for any particular class of human beings? Didn’t Jesus say to “love your brother (and sister, and whoever else) as yourself”? Well, let’s say that everyone in the LGBT community is a human being. If we are to love each other as ourselves, then why is discrimination even present?? Basic human rights: to be able to make a decent living, free from harassments, and to be safe from attacks based on orientation or gender identity. What is the harm in letting others live as they choose, so long as they are not infringing on another person’s basic rights? In living harmoniously with others, discrimination would not even be an issue. So…why the big deal on their part??

Trans Justice Starts at Home

Friday, November 23rd, 2007

I am going to get a little personal today and share a little about me. Yesterday went well…I and my kids and spouse spent the day with my parents for Thanksgiving. Before you think it was a disaster, let me tell you that it was a very good day, and we got along fine. The problem is that my parents are stuck in the past where I was still pretending to be a woman/girl. They are still not accepting me as my gender identity, but rather as their “little girl”. My dad referred to me as his daughter, and that I always will be his daughter in his mind. My mom refuses to give me any name at all–at least to my face. Who knows what she says when I am not around?

And did I stick up for myself? Would it have helped? Who knows? I have done that before, and they are not willing to listen. I’ve told them over and over that I want them to call me by my preferred name, and to use male pronouns. And yet…nothing. I had a huge conversation with them–in my head. This morning. While still in bed. On my birthday, no less. It went something like this,

“Why can’t you just accept that I am living in the gender I identify as? Why do you have to be stuck in the past? You say that it is hard to accept…that it is a lot to take in. You know what I say about that? That is crap, and you know it! The only thing that is hard is the difference between you wanting to hold on to who I was pretending to be, and who I really am. You’re wanting to have me forget all this and go back to being your little girl. I never WAS your little girl! I never, ever saw myself as a girl! There was just no space to say anything in that neo-nazi Christian environment you forced me to be in! How the hell did you expect me to be happy?

“This is why I attempted suicide so many times! (Even more times than you knew. I tried so many times that didn’t have me end up in the hospital.) I was depressed…I had low self-esteem…I was miserable. And you worried about me then. Now you worry about me because I am being who I am, and you think I am destroying myself. I have never been happier as I am now. The only thing that I get angry at is you two, who won’t accept me for who I am! Why can’t you just let go of the stinking past, and forget about the ideal you are holding on to of me ever, ever going back to those ridiculous girly pretenses, just so you can be happy again? There is no way I would do that! No chance of me ever doing that!

“How hard would it be for you to just let go of that ideal you have of me, and just acknowledge me as your son? It is actually very simple. First, you need to just realize that you are holding on way too tightly, and it is causing all of us a lot of pain and suffering. Realize that you are costing love between us, and that this love lost is sapping the energy and well-being right out of all of our lives. Second, just declare that you are giving up the past, and your ideas of what you think I should be like. And last, declare that I am who I say I am–your son. Would that be so hard if you weren’t being so stubborn?”

What does this have to do with Trans Justice? Trans justice is about fairness and rights. It’s about letting people be who they are, and not who others say they have to be. Trans Justice is about empowering people to live in the gender they identify as–not about feelings…not about wishing–but about who they are deep at the core of their being. If Trans Justice isn’t fostered at home, how can we have Trans Justice in the world?? If Trans Justice is just thought about in passing as a “good idea”, then we will never have justice in the world for our Transgender community! This is not just a “good idea” people. Give others the space they need to be who they are and not what YOU want them to be! This is the beginnings of Trans Justice.

I love my parents. I love being with them when we get along. But it gets really hard when they don’t listen to me, or acknowledge that I ID as a guy. It hurts me deeply, and it feels like I can say nothing about it, for fear of alienating them from me. And if that happens, and one of them should pass on..it makes me sad to think of never having this resolved. And I know–I need to have this conversation with them.  And I will…soon.

Remember: Trans Justice isn’t just a theory or a good idea. It begins with you–stop judging, and start acknowledging others for being who they are!

About Time 4 Trans Justice

Time 4 Trans Justice is justice for Transgendered individuals, as well as the Transgendered community. It’s about uniting the community in one voice to tell others that we will NOT take the crap they dish out to us anymore. It’s about seeing that we get the same rights as the rest of the human race get access to. It’s about time we get our issues to the forefront of society to give our issues and needs the attention they deserve.

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